The need to be socially accepted can play a significant role with how we act to fit in with our society. Television commercials encourage us to buy their product because “everyone is using it.” Clothing departments encourage us to wear the name brands because that is the “in thing to do.” And those that don’t participate in the popular choice aren’t considered to be a part of the “in crowd.”
Teenagers often face peer pressure from their peers in this way. They are often pressured by their peers to do certain things to be accepted – have sex outside of marriage, use fowl language, lie, participate in the use of drugs and alcohol, etc. In the minds of most, fitting in with the popular crowd brings happiness and an ease to life. Even though society believes it controls the popular choice, does that make the popular choice right? Our society is simply trying to persuade us to be something that we are not.
As Christians, we are to shine as lights unto the entire world (Mt. 6:13-16). The Scriptures teach that people must see a difference in our lives compared to the lives of the world. Often, because we are different, the world will bring social persecution upon those shining as lights. Even though our world sees us as social outcasts, consider the outcome for the Christian.
Choosing to shine as lights in this world will do two things. First, it will either cause those who are of the darkness – those of the world – to abstain from the light or provoke them to become a part of it. In other words, those who participate in ungodly activities will flee from the presence of those participating in godliness. Light is known for exposing the things that are hidden in the darkness. And for that, a person might become embarrassed and regretful of his actions. If he is truly attracted to the light, his conscious will work together to produce godly sorrow leading to repentance (II Cor. 7:10).
Second, those who shine as lights will attract others who are trying to shine their light as well. “When we walk in the light as He Himself is in the light, we have fellowship with one another and the blood of Jesus, His Son, cleanses us from all sin” (1 Jn. 1:7).
The saying, “opposites attract” is not true with light and darkness. As Christians, we don’t have to give ourselves over to the ways of the world to be a part of the “in crowd.” Jesus Christ shed His blood so that we could be a part of His crowd (Jn. 3:16)! Jesus distinguished that people are either in the church or outside of the church (Mt. 16:18; Mt. 7:21-23).
Christianity isn’t the popular decision of most today. Jesus Christ wasn’t a popular choice in His day either. Peter, an apostle of Christ who knew that Jesus was the Christ and the Son of God, denied any accusation that linked him to Jesus. He understood that being with Jesus could have caused him pain or even death. The most common incident that declares Jesus’ unpopularity was His suffering a horrific and painful death because people chose to be against Him – the true Light (Jn. 1:9).
How do we overcome the peer pressure and the thoughts of believing we do not fit in? Understanding there is more than this earthly life is the beginning of it all. Most things our peers pressure us to do are often things that God does not want us to participate in. These actions often cause us to put Christ through open shame yet again (Heb. 6:6).
It doesn’t matter what our peers say we should do, or how society says we should act and respond toward others. But what does matter is the plan that God has laid out for us and the pattern by which we are to live.
Jesus declared,
‘Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also. And where I go you know and they way you know.’ Thomas said to Him, ‘Lord, we do not know where You are going, and how can we know the way?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me’ (Jn. 14:1-6).
The words of Jesus reveal it clearly. Society might decide the popular choice for the world. But the true choice has already been laid out before us. Jesus Christ is the Way, Truth, and Life.
TEK